Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Dating AGAIN?!?!??!

No, not really dating, but do you ever feel like when you're getting to know new friends that you're pretty much "dating" them, just without the kissing? You hang out, talk on the phone, spend time together and getting to know each other. Add kids and husbands into the mix and it's a whole 'nuther ballgame, too! LOL! I've been doing some friend dating lately. I was, once upon a time, before Prince Charming came into my life, quite a dater. I loved it, and I was darn good at it, if I do say so myself ;)

I've never really talked about it on here, but those of you close to me know that it took a while to have HRH. I'm talking years and years and years and tears and tears and tears. Like decades! (well, okay, not DECADES! Almost half a decade, but it sure did feel a heckuva lot longer than that. The tears were there, though.) All I ever wanted was a baby, to be a mommy. I honestly feel like that's what I was put here to do in life. And I LOVE it. I am definitely doing what I was put here for. Well, when her Madgesty finally deigned to come along and grace us with her presence, I was on cloud nine. She and I and Prince Charming lived in our own little world for a couple of years. I didn't need anyone outside of my family, my baby, my husband, my parents and sisters and inlaws. What more could I want? Then a Hurricane came and life got even more crazily wonderful!!! A little whirlwind of giggles, hugs, and broken household lamps.

Well. NOW these darling little lovebugs are growing up and going to preschool and leaving me all by my lonesome self. Hmph. The nerve! Ungrateful little ingrates! I COULD have another baby, but Prince Charming has vetoed that until we get into our bigger house, in the next 18-24 months, hopefully. So, I've become friends with a few people. And it's so funny to me that the people you were friends with before you have children might be SO not the people you would be friends with AFTER you have children. Or is this just the case in my world? I mean certainly not everyone we knew falls into this category, but some do and then some REALLLLLLLLY do, if you know what I mean.

My whole point to this strange blog is that it feels weird to be testing relationship waters at my age, even if it is just a friend relationship. I don't tend to have lots of super close friends. I have TONS of people I'm friendly with, but people that I honestly consider a true friend come few and far between to me. I know you're never too old to make new friends, but golly gee, it seems like it's kind of hard work! You have those little mis-steps, where you misjudge someone's character and find out later that they really aren't the kind of friend you thought they were going to be, then you get disappointed (or I do, b/c I get my feelings hurt easily about some things). But then again, you meet a couple that you like, your husband likes, and your kids all play well together and it's like oh my gosh! How FUN is this?!?!?!

7 comments:

beki said...

I wish I had some friends.

Juli said...

Awwww.... I wish you lived closer than just the next state over! You are SO the kind of person I love to be friends with! :)

Heather said...

Developing new friends is tough and a lot of work, but fun work!! We have moved on average every 2 years since we were married and it's tough to start all over each time. I just pray about it and God puts the perfect people in my life!!

Flo said...

Girl, I know! You go through several "dinner dates" w/couples....sometimes it works out sometimes it doesn't. I completely agree with your dating analogy. Boog & I once had the most horrible "couple date" experience and we laugh about it all the time! Let's just say that guy was actually talking about how "hot" other girls were...with his wife right there! So not cool with us! ; )

lovingzachandtaylor said...

Oh Juli, I could have written this same post myself. Finding good friends is hard work these days! When I was younger, I could be friends with just about everyone...now not so much :) Have fun dating!!

A is for Angela said...

I find that my friendships go through cycles, too. Some of my girl groups have changed over the last year due to moms going back to work or kids leaving for school. I love how the Lord continues to bring fresh, new, encouraging friendships into my life. I've gotten pretty good at intuitively knowing what friendships are and aren't worth investing in.....it's a highly developed skill.

MommyTime said...

I like how you explain finding new friends as like dating, which seems to be precisely the case for me too. I am slowly making post-kid friendsm but it does take a lot of effort to figure out.